Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
 | Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
Korean Guys I receive 1000s of emails from my fans requesting interracial dating advice for Asian men and also the #1 question that gets asked is, “How should i know if she (normally a white girl, but not always) is interested in dating Asian men?” Korean Guys As your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question simply because its been asked so many times ad naseum. I’m finally planning to put it to bed for that first and last time despite my misgivings. I used to be recently reminded of this controversial topic (and I’ll cover the reason why it’s so controversial extensively at the bottom) on one of my many flights training men in the art of attraction after i sat next to a very pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl. In our conversation, she made most of the verbal indicators of curiosity that I’ve heard previously and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from the woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and so to the likes of you and I). This is admittedly a rarer form of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and one in which I’ll go more into detail in my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men. So here is a list of some of the things these girls will consciously do in order to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (and while I use the term white female, the reality is other women from Dark to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals): 10 Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men 1. She “Knows” an Asian language: Asian tattoos are a fantastic conversation starter with women! Maybe you’ve seen this kind - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or placed on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) even though they really only know how to order pho. Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I suggest an awesome sexual bantering tip because each woman wants to be cultured. You, as a cosmopolitan man around the globe, are going to teach her a phrase in your language. Here’s an example for you Chinese speakers. First, act grave and say something such as, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this beneficial in the far reaches in my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.” Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I only say?” And you’ll say (inside the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can manage) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, use your phrases to compliment her. Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I love your laugh.’” And she’ll laugh again. Continue but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded inside a learning experience. Girls who may have had the pleasure of this situation tell me it’s unique the other they’ve never forgotten. Be sure to utilize it if you know your native language! 2. She Has Asian Friends: Larissa Riquelme shot to fame when she announced in the World Cup that they wanted a Korean boyfriend Her companion is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived across the street from a Vietanemse family. Even if they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've some sort of Asian acceptance to produce her seem more receptive. They’ll utilize the most random things too; a really random story I’ve heard is when one girl’s delivery room doctor was a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die within the arms of an Asian man too.” The point is, they are attempting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was introduced to the idea of dating Asian men by a Korean acquaintance] 3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting techinques: I’ve never benefitted using this personally but one of my clients can be a former North American fighting styles champ and he’s currently quite a famous action director and actor. He’s written in my experience on several occasions in regards to the sexy crazy groupies which follow him and the people in his circuit - a plentiful selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Many of the most beautiful Asian men groupies follow the martial arts circuit, the fighting styles circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You've got a winner! 4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it is sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this comes up, use visual imagery to color a picture in her mind that appeals to all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of your steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own Korean BBQ, and also the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and also arousing topics. Why, i hear you ask? Because speaking of food such as this is sensual…just like sex. The best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, right? It relates to beautiful women too. 5. She Knows More About Your Mother Country Than You are doing: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take on this as generalizing, she’s just attempting to reach out to you. Play in to these fantasies when you can. Paint a photo about going on a vacation together. Start with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around within the sand kissing. Use her want to your advantage. 6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover: They express fascination with anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and the like). This group of women aren’t really my cup of joe, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s as much as her. If she’s discussing how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s attempting to relate to you. The latter kind of woman desires to impress you along with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hoping to get you to a point in places you say something to the effect of “That is really amazing how much you realize!” Watch for that and indulge her 7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and flicks - this kind of girl is infatuated using the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger and much more attractive, as this is a relatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she may well not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. Or even Chinese for that matter. I’m not to imply it won’t happen, however i can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this type of girl despite my PUA mastery. I just don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply just will not have anything only a BIG BANG boyfriend (quite simply, a Korean or Japanese guy). 8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it be your eyes, Asian hair, or skin tone, she’s going to love them and let you know it at some point in the conversation. Take her on it when she does by putting your forearm up to hers, or if you feel more at ease or if the conversation is going well, take her hand to point out the contrasting tones. Intangible such things as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language aren't uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (in the event you tell a girl she looks sexy because dress, she’ll probably put it on again). Just as we were little boys, perform melt under the praise of a beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments such as education or that knowledge of a second language, she’s wanting to help me learn. 9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies: They’ll typically create a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this as well. “Just think…if you and got married and we had a litter of the very beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they'd be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just as we men have sexual fantasies, women have “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push out of their minds to remain emotionally detached, but remember that, by the end of this or any conversation you've with a female thinking about you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping together with her. 10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is actually the biggest, most obvious indicator a girl can give you that she’s into Asian men in general and you in specific. Count on me, anytime a girl has ever informed me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically connect to her 99.9999% of times. So a white girl that way will say that she's got dated an Asian man before. She'll make this point as well as further - she will try to guess your ethnicity to demonstrate that she’s “learned in the ways of Asian men” and can prove that “not every body look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a man of my ethnicity to produce her seem more appealing and receptive in my experience. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your responsibility to close because as signals go, it doesn’t get any bigger than this one. While wearing, saying, or doing one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically produce a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a few of those traits as well as all of them together and, gentlemen, you merely might find yourself speaking with one woman that is madly in love with the Asian persuasion. Remember the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her! SO WHY WAIT UNTIL NOW TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION? I mentioned previously i was always not wanting to answer this question. I know it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give which says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?” So just why haven’t I answered it until now? Unfortunately, the act of thinking means your More unlikely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women. It’s a paradox. You see, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve been hesitant to answer because, on a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men in general to actually know the response to that question. I really believe that the thousands of men that message me with this question are displaying what is known “learned helplessness.” Basically, the men to whom the solution to the question “How can one tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and therefore me)?” is important, are training themselves to merely make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, ahead of the man does. Put simply, he wants a zero-risk, inside the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or maybe your money back proposition. And in today’s modern world with modern women, the worst thing dating is, is risk-free. Which means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man ready to take risks (who'd then naturally attract these women be they white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to find the beautiful woman, he instead becomes the Asian beta male who's only confident if it is instead the woman who takes the original risk. Instead of the proper way around which is the man’s role to be dominant, forward, and a leader. I hope, however, I'm not really doing a disservice to Asian men by training to check, and ONLY look, for these specific female signals of attraction first prior to making a move… Instead of making a move first after which making her interested in you which she then sends you signals. That’s the right way. Laugh your path into her heart (after which her pants)! As you can see, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not a good looking or handsome guy. Each woman I’ve dated is physically (otherwise socially) out of my league. I never get those sort of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You shouldn't expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with beautiful women continues to be documented and faithfully captured through the media around the world. Instead, use these signals and indicators of great interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming attracted to you AFTER you’ve approached her and gotten to know her. You should take these 10 Signals She’s Interested in Asian Men as signs for you to STAY when you’re already in a conversation with her as opposed to viewing them as indicators for you to initially approach her. Over time, what I’ve discovered with women that specifically they enjoy Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll love to be there but be cautious because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not just a girl YOU chose, the industry gross difference. And after answering this age old question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m going to address the 13 Types of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, you will find women who will use the above signals because she’s only drawn to your “Asianness”, but not for that reasons that you might think. If you haven’t had the chance to become familiar with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - in the end, you’re here to learn get, and quitting the game early isn’t fair to yourself and also to the many women you have yet to meet. |
